Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Blog Neglect is Necessary

Okay, so, I've been kind of absent recentish. It's because I fell into a hole, see. I'm actually trapped in a cave. Help. I'm kidding, just leave me here. I'll get out on my own.

For real, I've been writing. I've got this manuscript I'm working on that is the most exciting thing I've ever written. I can't really tell you about it, except it's just, man, I don't know. It's got me by the throat. It's the toughest thing I've ever written, too, so it's killing me.

Dude, I wish I could tell you about it. It's like, well okay, it's paranormal, right? But it's also not now paranormal. And it's also in this setting that is not ours, but it's here. And there's all this thrillerish action and a love story and all these feeeeeelings.


Yeah, that did no good. I hope you'll get to read it.

Anyway, my blog neglect came at the same time as Livia Blackburne's article about writers blogging--and how it's a waste of time. Timely, no? I swear we didn't plan it. Anyway, the article is quite insightful (check it out). She doesn't say you get nothing out of blogging, merely that it doesn't equate to book sales, which may be true. It seems like it could be. But I also know that blogging--and actually anything you do can have an indirect influence on anything. I suspect that blogging can ultimately have an impact on sales, though it's difficult to know exactly how much if at all. The key is to really enjoy blogging then, right? Only do it if you derive satisfaction from it. That satisfaction may be all you get. I like blogging, I'm just not good at doing it every day*. I get far more satisfaction from blogging when I feel like it, and I rarely feel like blogging every day.**

But there's one major reason I don't blog super regularly. Well, two. One, because I don't only read my comments; I also try to reply to them (if you've got your profiles linked to an email) and/or visit your blogs (if you've got one), and this can take up a lot of time. So instead of cutting back on that stuff, I cut back on my online content. Perhaps that's not wise, but I figure blogging is about interaction, at least for me. Otherwise I'd just have a website.***

Oh yeah, and reason two...I have to write, and writing takes serious time. Not only do I have a family and a home and an addiction to clean clothes, I have that paranormal thrillerish thing going on and an absolute need to write. It's that or anti-anxiety meds. Also, I have an agent who sort of expects me to write. And I want to give that to her. Me writing equals happiness for both of us. Hopefully.

So. Know that while I'm not blogging, I'm either nurturing my family or sitting on my bed writing in clean underwear. Not the ones that say "Love it or lose it." Those are way too cliché for writing a love story.

But I do miss you. I do.

*I realize this sucks for planners. My apologies to you. But if it's easier, you can subscribe by email and then my posts will show up in your inbox when they go out and you don't have to check to see if I've posted. Although, oh my word, I feel like a douche even suggesting that you might be checking to see if I posted. Does anyone actually do that? I'd feel really stupid if no one does.

**This may be redundant.

***If you'd rather have more content and less interaction, I'm curious to know what you'd prefer, actually.

Oh hey! Before I forget...

If you haven't yet, be sure to check out my mini reviews and ARC giveaways of these YA books:

FURY by Elizabeth Miles, THE SCORPIO RACES by Maggie Stiefvater, NOCTURNE by Christine Johnson, and SHELTER by Harlan Coben. This giveaway is international and it ends tomorrow, August 4.


Also, sidenote:

I should not have eaten graham crackers in bed. MISTAKE.


  1. I haven't been blogging lately either but unlike you, I haven't been very successful in getting any writing done.

    fail tram, party of one!

  2. I once told myself I'd blog everyday... yeah, it lasted about four days...

    I wouldn't worry too much about us - if you're out being productive and getting that novel done, at least you have more to blog about! :)

  3. Firstly, re. * -- yes, I check, and further I am always delighted when I see you've posted, and hustle along to read. And I am not alone.

    Secondly -- I think you've got your priorities right. I've cut back to once a week for now, because I'm drafting like crazy and that's got to take priority, but I wouldn't want to miss out on the connections and interaction I get from my blog. Getting the balance right is work, but it's worth it.

  4. Your posts just show up in my blog reader and tell me to come over here, so ... meh. You post when you post, no big deal. I agree that blogging should be rewarding and fun, and that there are other things that have to take priority. How wonderful and exciting that you're in WIP love! Have a great time with it, even when it's exhausting! I hope we get to read it someday, too :)

  5. I think you've got it right. Our writing has to come first! Absolutely. And like you, blogging is an interaction. If I know I can't comment or won't have time, I feel bad blogging. I think we're all thinking about this!

  6. I don't think anyone should feel obligated to blog. It's supposed to be fun. Though I do think it has at least a small impact on book sales, because I know there are certain authors whose books I'd buy no matter what, just because I've come to like them through their blog.

  7. I think I blog cos "it's there"!

    And it's fun!

    Take care

  8. I know what you mean about the blogging and time committment. I still respond personally to a majority of the comments (if they're linked to an email address), and I do visit and comment on all the commenters' blogs in return. Some days it feels like that's all I'm doing.

    I didn't read that post, but I did read a similar one by a best selling author. Same message, though. I agree to some extend. I don't follow the blogs of authors. I follow the blogs of aspiring writer (like me). Now if I love said aspring writer and she ends up being published, then I'll still read and comment on her blog (just not as much as before). Now it's not her blog that's selling me on her books, it's the actual book. ;)

  9. You had a slew of great posts there for a while, like every day, it seemed. Don't worry about it, we still love you. Your new story sounds great, even if what you shared was a little vague.

  10. I think that if you blog when you are feeling inspired to blog, then you have a great blog. There should be no "shoulds" in blogging! :)

  11. Okay, I seriously just clapped for you. I was so excited to read the news of the manuscript you are working on. Keep rocking the tar out of it. I look forward to the day I can buy your book at your chic book signing

  12. Agree with heather^. Blog when you feel like it. There are no rules.


  13. Life must come first, nothing wrong with that! I get so much out of blogging, the interaction with my readers, the support of a fantastic community. It may or may not translate into book sales, that doesn't matter so much to me. Just getting to chat with you lovely peeps is what does. :) And that doesn't have to be on a regular basis, be as sporadic as you like sweety.

  14. I like to blog for interaction, too. I've met great people that way and enjoyed a lot of writerly discussions. The trick, as you point out, is to do it when you desire to and to not neglect the rest of life.

  15. Miss you too. But I can't wait to hear all about it:) Blog whenever you feel like. Writing first! PS: I'm excited about my new book too. Go us!!

  16. You are such a tease!! I don't know what paranormalish masterpiece you're working on, but if you're this excited about it, it's got to be great!!

    Blog when the spirit moves you.

  17. Ooh, the new book sounds awesome! I have been total lame at blogging ever since I had baby girl, but oh well. I just can't do it all. I do miss talking with you though!

  18. I've recently learned that while NutterButters are quite fabulous (esp when paired with a cold glass of milk), they are not so fabulous when eaten in bed. Crumbly little suckers...

  19. We miss you!
    And that's only fair not to post when you can't visit others.

  20. That's why I subscribe to all the blogs I read. Too hard to keep up otherwise! And I've been a neglectful blogger lately, too. Writing, reading and the summer -- that was enough.

  21. I think I need to go on blogging break soon because July went by crazy fast and August is shaping up to be busy - what with Camp NaNoWriMo and all. So I totally get where you're coming from, and do very much appreciate what you've been doing. :)

    Good luck with everything! And yeah, cookies in bed is never a good idea after the fact (crumbs everywhere!). :P

  22. The manuscript comes first. And I agree; I like replying to comments and visiting other blogs. It takes time and we can only do so much. I feel I've neglected my blog the bulk of the summer, but I think we all go through this to move forward with other projects.

  23. Wonderful thoughts - thanks for sharing. When I look back on my posts, I can always tell which ones I wrote out of the joy I get from doing it and which once I felt somehow obligated to write.

  24. And of course once = *ones* :)

  25. Good luck with the book... and do what you got to do--besides eating in bed.

  26. I LOVE blogging, but sometimes life takes over and I just can't do it all the time. I try to stick to three days a week, yet even that's hard. But I try.

    And yes, networking and blogging is important, but writing ultimately wins out for me too. Well - you know - that and the family. And the day job. And...

    And I do appreciate the visits to my blog. I strive to do that too.

    Um...I want to hear more about this current story. I am intrigued already.

  27. I love to blog. It's now a part of me just like writing is. I know they say to create a platform but when I started it was merely to find myself. Now that I found myself I chose not to give it up because it's who I am. I'm a M-F blogger because I LOVE IT. I'm not one who is able to visit blogs every day but I do my best.

    I can't be in a million places at once. The good news is that I do my best to comment and when I fail at least you know I'm still around with my blogging. I do it for me and hope others enjoy.

  28. hi miss carolina! for sure im gonna miss you being her so much. but i could see youre real busyish and im just real happy you got a new book going thats got you all excited. i did a break a while back cause of being sick and when i got back all my blogger friends were still here and yours are gonna be too. just blog when you want. i hope you get lots done on that book.
    ...hugs from lenny

  29. Dude, you blog way more frequently than I do, thus you know my thoughts on the matter: blog haphazardly when you can...sans guilt or pressure.

    Actually, I wish everyone would blog only once a week-- at most. Twice a month would be even better. I could attempt to keep up better that way.


    FAMILY and friends first, LIVING LIFE second, WRITING next....blogging is is lower on the list. We can only do what we can, when we can.

    Good word hunting.

  30. I love your blog, especially posts like this one where it's all about you and what you are doing. That's what draws me to your place. It's wonderful to read that you're working on something so stimulating. I'd like to hear more when you have the time.

  31. That's weird. My dashboard showed you had a new post, but now it's gone. Must be a blogger glitch. I'll check back later.

  32. HEY! Have you always had an email subscription option because I SWEAR I have looked for one for you before and not seen it.

    So yeah.

    I do just check to see if you've posted.

    And I so so so get what you're saying about blogging and writing. It feels like I've been blogging all summer long (although I post only once a week! how could that be?) but with the writing and the replying to comments and the visiting of other peoples' blogs....

    yes. it feels like a full time job.

    And I haven't been writing my novel. Duh.

    I need to adjust my priorities.
    And probably change my underwear.


    p.s. Signing up for email subscription. Now.

  33. I feel the same way about it. I think it is great that you still prioritize writing. I sometimes wonder when people have time to write when they blog every day. With my family and ill health of my parents right now, I barely have time to read blogs let alone write them. :)

  34. You're definitely a frequent blogger! I find it difficult to keep up with bloggers who post everyday. Though I do envy their prolificness. I think you have priorities in order (which I definitely don't). Writing is always more important than blogging, and shouldn't ever be sacrificed for blogging.

  35. I love the feeling of being excited about a book. Good luck with your writing!

    I feel as you do - I'd rather blog less and comment more when I'm busy.

  36. I think I know how you feel! I try to stick to a blog schedule the best I can, but if I try to do TOO much (reading, writing, blogging, chugging too much wine...) then I sometimes have to put the blog on the back burner. I try my best to always answer back on blog comments too, and I likely spend too much time reading others as well. Ah well, you just gotta do what you can!

  37. I say do what is right for you. Blog when you can. Best wishes with your book.

  38. "blog when you can" - I agree with Susanne.

    Blogging should be something we do for fun and to express our opinion anytime we want. It shouldn't be like work that we need to accomplish everyday. Just write when you feel writing and don't push yourself too much or else it won't be fun anymore.

    Best wishes with your book. I'm intrigue & excited about it. I'll look forward on the release date =)

  39. I just found this blog, and I <3 it. And I like blogging, but you're right, it's a time suck of epic proportions because I do get back to everyone and comment on comments. Sigh, but I do like it. From your newb follower :)

  40. Oh, and best of luck with the WIP. Sounds gr8!

  41. Yes! I totally agree. I have to manage my time wisely in order to get my writing done. It's the first priority and then blogging. I love bloggin though. That's the problem! And it's so fun visiting other people's blogs!

  42. PS- I liked what you put in small print because I am one of those people that do check if you posted. Anyways, hope you are having a great week.

  43. Content is great. But so is the interaction. And I think the interaction helps build your base, and possibly sells books. Not convinced blogging on the whole does that--but writing blogs can engender a lot of support. Seriously. Writers are one of the most supportive groups I've seen. And that's cool. And that little personal touch would make me more likely to go out there and buy a book.

    I think balance is hard to achieve. It's so easy to let my blogging schedule take over my writing schedule. I contribute to more than one blog, so it gets complicated. But ALL of it is writing, right? And writing something every day is good.

    I think it's cool that you interact with your commenters. Not all bloggers do. I think you're making your support stronger.

    And btw, I don't know if you saw my response to your comment on, but our current contest winner lives just south of you in Bloomington. I used to live there too, and spent a lot of time in Indy. It's a cool town. Are you a Hoosier by birth? :)

  44. Awesome that you've got an exciting writing project you're working on. It's so hard finding the balance between writing, blogging, work,& family. I know. I struggle with it too. Sounds like you have your priorities straight.

  45. Yes, the writing needs to get done...and I'm so behind.

    I only blog once a week, but sometimes I feel like I spend too much time commenting. Still, I enjoy the communication. I've cut down a bit because of my two somehwat neglected wips.

  46. Sometimes blogging breaks have to happen, either because of a busy schedule or to avoid blogging burnout. I blog three times a week currently, but who knows if in the future I'll have to cut back. For now it's three, and I'm enjoying it.

    Also, I’m a new follower. Stop by my blog and follow me too? :)

  47. Thanks for the shoutout, Carol! Too bad we didn't coordinate. But we can still pretend we did :-) That's awesome that you're so into your new manuscript. It's the best feeling, isn't it? I'm still in the startup phase of my new one. Or the flaming pile of crap phase :-P But you gotta start somewhere :-)


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